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The Five Truths Of Fear, And Why You Should Know Them

Fear is much more common in your life then you probably realize. We all have certain fears rushing through our head on a daily basis.

Whether it be the fear of public speaking, your job situation, your family situation, aging, death, or anything else you can think of! Fear is all around us. Even when you procrastinate, it’s often because you have some hidden fear that you won’t be able to get the job done.

The more you let fear control your life, the more unhappy you are going to be. To combat this, you must know why we are afraid. You also must know the fundamental truths behind your fears.

There are five truths of fear. Knowing and understanding each one will allow you to conquer any fears you may have. That’s not to say that you will never be afraid again (because you will). It’s simply saying that whenever fear strikes, you will be able to face your fear dead in the eye and not let it take over. You will take firm control of your life so that nothing in this world will stop you.

Here are the five truths of fear…

Truth #1: As long as you continue reaching towards goals and stretching your capabilities, there will be new fears that you run into.

The first truth is a little tough to absorb so trying reading it again. First, you need to understand that there is no cure for fear. No matter how good you get at conquering fear, you are still going to have fears come up from time to time.

It’s important that you understand this no matter how disappointing it may be. It’s essential if you are ever going to learn to cope with fear. Understand that even though you are going to have fears for the rest of your life, the way that you handle those fears can change.

For the first truth, remember that somehow and someway, something will come up and you will have fear. It’s at that point that you remember the next four truths of fear. By doing so, your fear will diminish.

Truth #2: The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.

In the first truth, you learned that fear is going to happen in your life constantly. What truth #2 is saying is that when that fear arrives, the only way to get rid of it is to go out and do it.

Think about someone who is afraid to sleep in the dark. How could someone possibly get rid of this fear?

Well, it’s quite simple actually. They have to sleep in the dark! There’s no other way around it. If they are ever going to rid themselves of their fear, there is going to have to be a point where they suck it up and do it. It’s common sense. The problem is that when it comes to fear, we often fail to forget what is logical.

In order to conquer your fear, you must remind yourself that the only way that this fear is ever going to go away is if you go out and do it. Which leads to truth #3…

Truth #3: The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and do it.

When we have a fear, we tend to procrastinate facing it until later. Yet, when we procrastinate and realize we still haven’t done it, it only makes us feel worse.

When we put off our fear, our confidence goes down. Our self-esteem goes down. Then we start to feel depressed and it starts to take a toll on our health and well being.

The third truth is very similar to the second. The only way to pick yourself up and to feel better again is if you face your fear and hit it head on. By doing so, you can move on with your life. Also, the more you learn to face your fears when they arise, the more confidence you start to have in yourself.

Over time, you start to feel invincible. You start to have the confidence that there is nothing that you can’t handle. This confidence is important to have if you are ever going to make it far in life.

Truth #4: It’s not just you that experiences fear whenever you are in unfamiliar territory, everyone else does as well.

Some people go through life feeling as if everyone is out to get them. If they have a problem, they think that they are the only person on the planet that has to deal with it…

Trust me. No matter what happens to you, someone out there has had to deal with the same thing that you have before in one way or another.

Let’s say that we are searching for a new job. We fail to realize that there are thousands of people out there that are having to go through the exact same things that we are. When we go to a job interview, we don’t remember that there are often 15-20 other people that will be sitting down and applying for the exact same job. That’s not to scare you. It’s just to remind you that you are not the only one having to deal with these fears.

Also, when you sit down for an interview, you probably don’t even know that the employer is just as scared as you are. Their fears are different, but they still have them. They are afraid of making the wrong choices when hiring. They fear that they will get fired or lose a lot of money because they hired you. Whatever other reasons they may have, I assure you that they are loaded with fear when they sit down for an interview with you.

With all of this being said, don’t forget about truth #4. You are not the only one dealing with fear. We all are! Think of your fear as a fun challenge that everyone has to deal with, and the pressure for you to perform will go way down.

Truth #5: Pushing through fear is less frightening then lying there helpless and not doing anything about it.

I once heard of a woman that was afraid of balloons. It was very real! She had this constant fear that whenever she was around them they would unexpectedly pop and a loud noise would go off. Now, this woman could have very well had this fear for the rest of her life. She simply would avoid going to birthday parties, amusement parks, or anywhere else where she thought there would be balloons around. Or…

She could face her fear once and for all. Conquer it. And then live the rest of her life without having this fear for balloons.

Which one do you think would cause more fear? Dealing with it one time and getting over it. Or, living with it day in and day out for the rest of her life? We don’t think about our fears this way very often. Instead, we keep putting it off and putting it off. But if we would just deal with our fear as it arrives, we would save ourselves a ton of grief!

Never forget this the next time that you have a fear. Face it head on as soon as it arrives. This is the only way it will ever go away. So how do we strike up the courage to face our fears?…

The only way to diminish your fear is to develop more trust in your ability to handle anything that comes your way.

If you can do that, there won’t be a fear in the world that you can’t handle!

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